Hi All - Halloween is behind us, Thanksgiving may or may not be glossed over, and the Winter Holidays are just around the corner. So what's on the docket for today?
Often times, people try to intimidate us when we say things that we're proud of or happy about. If they're toxic enough, they'll try to say that what we like is stupid or useless, and they'll say it in the loudest, longest, and most obnoxious way. And because they know that we're basically nicer, and are less likely to fight back, they sometimes also will say it in front of a crowd of followers and sycophants, since they need continuous reinforcement through enabling to continue living off this toxicity.
Why they do that is not as important as how to handle it. However, some insight into their quest to silence you might reveal a few tips and pointers:
(Reason 1) They're not secure enough to handle someone who thinks differently than they do, and can't share the floor with other voices.
(Solution 1) Keep voicing your opinion anyway. The more they try to silence you, make yourself better, wiser, and more thick-skinned. No matter how loud they get, they'll be forced to reckon with you.
(Reason 2) They have weaknesses to protect, and the longer they allow you to talk, they're afraid you'll touch a nerve.
(Solution 2) Keep it in your back pocket. Don't hit them over the head out of nowhere with it, that's their game plan, and not ours. Once they cross a line, which they always do, lock on the target and pull the trigger. You didn't start that conflict, and they sure as heck asked for it.
(Reason 3) They have been enabled, spoiled, and protected for so long they don't understand how it feels to be wrong, incorrect, or behind the times. And it shakes the very foundations upon which they stand.
(Solution 3) Keep it in lower in your back pocket. It's not our way to fight arrogance with arrogance. But whenever they make it a personal attack, yes you can hit them over the head with this. The very concept of choosing not to say something, even though you can, was obviously never taught to them earlier, so teach them now.
As I've stated before, the way for us Betas to improve our lives, be happier, and attain greater successes is to be Bold and Bulletproof. That means not letting people bully us into silence just because they don't know how to respectfully disagree. That means shoring up our feelings airtight so nothing they say can wound us, stun us, or make us feel ashamed of ourselves. And yes, when warranted, that means take a shot at them to show them what is acceptable and what is not.
Unfortunately, there are still more alpholes out there than there are of us. For now.
I EXIST. I MATTER. I BELONG. I DESERVE.
I AM BOLD. I AM BULLETPROOF. I AM BETA.