Hey All! It's about that time again.
When I started taking this little enterprise in its current direction, I heard a small, but tolerable, amount of criticism.
"Beta males, David? You're putting your audience down by definition! You're saying that they're all second-rate, and you're reminding them that the alpha males get all the women, while they'll be left with nobody!"
Au contraire. The point is unfortunately missed. This blog is about the advancement of beta males, among other things.
I am not telling my audience that they need to stop being themselves and start being someone completely different. That's like telling the introverted kid in high school that he has to dress differently, speak differently, and act completely unnaturally in order to get more people to like him -- that's ridiculous.
The first step to this advancement, if it's not obvious enough already, is for a beta male to replace his self-doubt with confidence as his first layer of armor. From the inside outward, he must know that he is a good man just the way he is. He must know that he is capable and confident. He must know the right questions to ask to gain the knowledge he seeks.
He should never seek to change who he is, substitute his values, or try to emulate someone who has a completely different make up than his. Instead, he should believe that he has every right to his thoughts, his words, and his choices.
He should not feel crippled, defective, or mortally wounded by his mistakes. He should never feel that his shortcomings define him. And he should never think that anyone else's opinion of him can save or damn his very soul.
To put it short, he should be bold. Not tough, not badass, not cocky, and not full of himself. Bold.
Even if he feels afraid or nervous, he still feels confident. Even if he faces criticism or insults, he minimizes them as others' opinions, and not his own. Even if he loses or fails, he knows that dwelling on the losses or failures to often will immobilize him, and he keeps moving instead.
Pretty simple really. Shame on me for not spelling out earlier, but I've done it now instead.
So let's be Bold -- starting tomorrow!
I EXIST. I MATTER. I BELONG. I DESERVE.
I AM BULLETPROOF. I AM BOLD. I AM BETA.