This blog is meant for the advancement, redemption, and self actualization of those who have not been taught how to properly manage their emotions, and have suffered due to this lack of information. While we in no way defend those who have harmed us, we also do not make ourselves triggered and manipulated by people and things we cannot control. Through the application of the Eight Pillars, we can move forward and become the strong, unflappable, respectable people we were meant to be.
Sunday, March 8, 2015
Grabbing the Tiger By The Toe!
Hi All -- did you remember to spring ahead?
Many things anger us: the guy in the subway is a rude jerk, someone on the street is annoying, somebody and school or work seems to always "get away" with things that would get you suspended fired in a nanosecond. Somebody gives you bad information, somebody laughs at your opinions, someone just always has to say that you're wrong, or just always has to brag about how much better they are than you.
You're actually allowed to be angry at them -- for One Minute. And I mean one minute only. That is your window of opportunity to either confront the problem or dismiss it. This can actually be deferred to a later time when circumstances prevent an immediate reaction, but it cannot be extended. You also have the third option of venting your anger in a safe place with someone you trust, but it's still only one minute. After that, your thoughts must go elsewhere.
Stewing, fuming, gossiping, and bashing has never solved a problem in history. It has only made them worse.
If you must re-visit this anger, either (a) use it from a position of strength to build, create, or take other types of needed action, or (b) diffuse it. If that anger gives you power, fuel, and gusto to clean your house from top to bottom, write an unbeatable legal brief, or help a child build a toy with incomprehensible instructions, so be it! If not, then either work it out through various forms of exercise, or smooth it out through various forms of meditation and relaxation.
Point being, as I've stated before, self-actualization means to control anger, and not to be controlled by it. Grab the tiger by the toe, or it will eat all ten of yours!!!!!!
I EXIST. I MATTER. I BELONG. I DESERVE.
I AM BOLD. I AM BULLETPROOF. I AM BETA.
Many things anger us: the guy in the subway is a rude jerk, someone on the street is annoying, somebody and school or work seems to always "get away" with things that would get you suspended fired in a nanosecond. Somebody gives you bad information, somebody laughs at your opinions, someone just always has to say that you're wrong, or just always has to brag about how much better they are than you.
You're actually allowed to be angry at them -- for One Minute. And I mean one minute only. That is your window of opportunity to either confront the problem or dismiss it. This can actually be deferred to a later time when circumstances prevent an immediate reaction, but it cannot be extended. You also have the third option of venting your anger in a safe place with someone you trust, but it's still only one minute. After that, your thoughts must go elsewhere.
Stewing, fuming, gossiping, and bashing has never solved a problem in history. It has only made them worse.
If you must re-visit this anger, either (a) use it from a position of strength to build, create, or take other types of needed action, or (b) diffuse it. If that anger gives you power, fuel, and gusto to clean your house from top to bottom, write an unbeatable legal brief, or help a child build a toy with incomprehensible instructions, so be it! If not, then either work it out through various forms of exercise, or smooth it out through various forms of meditation and relaxation.
Point being, as I've stated before, self-actualization means to control anger, and not to be controlled by it. Grab the tiger by the toe, or it will eat all ten of yours!!!!!!
I EXIST. I MATTER. I BELONG. I DESERVE.
I AM BOLD. I AM BULLETPROOF. I AM BETA.
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