This blog is meant for the advancement, redemption, and self actualization of those who have not been taught how to properly manage their emotions, and have suffered due to this lack of information. While we in no way defend those who have harmed us, we also do not make ourselves triggered and manipulated by people and things we cannot control. Through the application of the Eight Pillars, we can move forward and become the strong, unflappable, respectable people we were meant to be.
Tuesday, October 30, 2012
Sunday, October 28, 2012
Two Races
Good Evening All!
Those of us on the Eastern Seaboard have now battened down our hatches for the second hurricane in two years. However, as I write, there are no gale-force winds, driving rain, or gigantic hailstones. Call it reverse Murphy's Law -- when you're Prepared to the teeth for something, it either does not happen or is revealed to be non-threatening. It's when you're NOT prepared for it that it bites you in the haunches! Either way, I've stocked up for a storm, and have been assured that the MTA subways have been shut down until further notice. We await news of its reopening . . . .
Next week, we'll be treated to two races. One is crucial for the athlete in all of us, and one is even more crucial to the future of our country.
A week from today, I will have completed my 7th NYC Marathon. Unlike other years, when I've trained with a group in Central Park two nights a week and once every weekend, I've gone it alone. I used the official 20-week NYRR training program and used it with the MapMyRun app on my phone.
While there may be those who think social media has gone too far, enabling us to track our very movements at any time, I respectfully disagreed. Every time I've posted my training results, even when I thought I wasn't at my best, there was always somebody giving me a thumbs-up. It's just a little blip on a screen, a rendering of someone's name, a small helping of bits and bytes, but it's a good thing to see.
Our sport thrives on encouragement and positive reinforcement. It is through these constant reminders that mere novices are able to gain enough strength and speed to transform their bodies in ways not thought possible. It is also through these constant reminders that those who may already have some experience in this sport can still rise to yet another level. So to all my friends, family, acquaintances, confidantes, and otherwise important people, I'd like to thank you in advance for all the likes and comments. You helped me raise my game this year, and I hope to convert that into a PR next week.
Aaaaand then there's that other race, which will end two days after the fun one. Yes, the 2012 Presidential Election will finally be delivered to us, the voters, to elect our leaders as can only be done in a democratic republic such as ours. It's not a day heralded by parades and fireworks, but it is the most important American holiday, second only to Thanksgiving. In other parts of the world, even to this day, criticism is squashed, dissent is eliminated, and opposition results in death or torture. Yet here in America, our forebears granted to us the right to select our leaders to govern as we see best, and to elect new leaders if those initially elected cannot succeed. Or, on the other hand, where the applicable constitution or charter allows, we can re-elect those leaders who have succeeded.
This election will go down in history as one of the most high-conflict, polarizing, and downright ugly elections ever seen. It pitted two opposite visions of America against each other, and exposed some damning weaknesses on both sides, leading many to lose confidence in the system I praised above. And through the magic of social media, it has pitted these opposing visions of America against each other with fire and venom not seen since the 1860's (this is meant for dramatic effect, I'm sure there were other eras with more conflict, I just don't leave myself enough editing time to be sure).
But when the final ballot is tabulated, a winner is declared, and a loser concedes, I can only hope that we turn our thoughts to a united America. I can only hope that those who support the winning candidate can limit their celebrations to one day following the election, and then a little bit more on Inauguration Day, and then turn their attention to the fulfillment of all campaign promises and/or logical and cogent explanations as to why they cannot be fulfilled, and what can be done instead. I can also hope that those who support the losing candidate can graciously put their angry rhetoric to the side and focus on what can still be done to ensure that their interests can still be represented with respect and civility towards our democratically-elected leader.
Shocking as it may seem, it's actually easier to run 26.2 miles than it is for us as Americans to set differences aside for the sake of our national interests. Maybe we could learn from this election how sticking to party lines and engaging in groupthink prevents our nation from moving forward, and make more attempts to avoid this four years from now.
That's my peace, all. My thoughts and prayers are for the continued safety of everyone who may be in Hurricane Sandy's path. Stay safe!
Those of us on the Eastern Seaboard have now battened down our hatches for the second hurricane in two years. However, as I write, there are no gale-force winds, driving rain, or gigantic hailstones. Call it reverse Murphy's Law -- when you're Prepared to the teeth for something, it either does not happen or is revealed to be non-threatening. It's when you're NOT prepared for it that it bites you in the haunches! Either way, I've stocked up for a storm, and have been assured that the MTA subways have been shut down until further notice. We await news of its reopening . . . .
Next week, we'll be treated to two races. One is crucial for the athlete in all of us, and one is even more crucial to the future of our country.
A week from today, I will have completed my 7th NYC Marathon. Unlike other years, when I've trained with a group in Central Park two nights a week and once every weekend, I've gone it alone. I used the official 20-week NYRR training program and used it with the MapMyRun app on my phone.
While there may be those who think social media has gone too far, enabling us to track our very movements at any time, I respectfully disagreed. Every time I've posted my training results, even when I thought I wasn't at my best, there was always somebody giving me a thumbs-up. It's just a little blip on a screen, a rendering of someone's name, a small helping of bits and bytes, but it's a good thing to see.
Our sport thrives on encouragement and positive reinforcement. It is through these constant reminders that mere novices are able to gain enough strength and speed to transform their bodies in ways not thought possible. It is also through these constant reminders that those who may already have some experience in this sport can still rise to yet another level. So to all my friends, family, acquaintances, confidantes, and otherwise important people, I'd like to thank you in advance for all the likes and comments. You helped me raise my game this year, and I hope to convert that into a PR next week.
Aaaaand then there's that other race, which will end two days after the fun one. Yes, the 2012 Presidential Election will finally be delivered to us, the voters, to elect our leaders as can only be done in a democratic republic such as ours. It's not a day heralded by parades and fireworks, but it is the most important American holiday, second only to Thanksgiving. In other parts of the world, even to this day, criticism is squashed, dissent is eliminated, and opposition results in death or torture. Yet here in America, our forebears granted to us the right to select our leaders to govern as we see best, and to elect new leaders if those initially elected cannot succeed. Or, on the other hand, where the applicable constitution or charter allows, we can re-elect those leaders who have succeeded.
This election will go down in history as one of the most high-conflict, polarizing, and downright ugly elections ever seen. It pitted two opposite visions of America against each other, and exposed some damning weaknesses on both sides, leading many to lose confidence in the system I praised above. And through the magic of social media, it has pitted these opposing visions of America against each other with fire and venom not seen since the 1860's (this is meant for dramatic effect, I'm sure there were other eras with more conflict, I just don't leave myself enough editing time to be sure).
But when the final ballot is tabulated, a winner is declared, and a loser concedes, I can only hope that we turn our thoughts to a united America. I can only hope that those who support the winning candidate can limit their celebrations to one day following the election, and then a little bit more on Inauguration Day, and then turn their attention to the fulfillment of all campaign promises and/or logical and cogent explanations as to why they cannot be fulfilled, and what can be done instead. I can also hope that those who support the losing candidate can graciously put their angry rhetoric to the side and focus on what can still be done to ensure that their interests can still be represented with respect and civility towards our democratically-elected leader.
Shocking as it may seem, it's actually easier to run 26.2 miles than it is for us as Americans to set differences aside for the sake of our national interests. Maybe we could learn from this election how sticking to party lines and engaging in groupthink prevents our nation from moving forward, and make more attempts to avoid this four years from now.
That's my peace, all. My thoughts and prayers are for the continued safety of everyone who may be in Hurricane Sandy's path. Stay safe!
Sunday, October 21, 2012
Under Your Skin
Hey All -- Double Portion!
No matter what we do, there is always a chance that someone, or something, will get under our skin. Get our goat, grind our gears, boil our blood . . . or just plain p--- us off!
(sorry all, this is a family blog)
We're only human, so unless we're campaigning for sainthood, we're at least going to feel this reaction emotionally, even if we don't actually express it. So what's to be done about it, without exposing ourselves to homicide charges?
(A) NEVER let your anger effect your judgment. Expressing why you're getting ticked, even a little bit forcefully, is OK, but DON'T let that expression include (1) any kind of cursing; (2) name-calling or slams against the other person (especially not anything that could cost you your reputation); or (3) any sort of threats. If you must call someone on their BS, call them out only on the specific issues, and don't hit "below the belt." Chances are, these people are trying to goad you into all of the above, and they're experts in using them against you.
(B) FIND the breach in your "skin," patch it back up, and heal it. We've all got weak spots, but you don't let them stay weak and vulnerable if you expect to function like a healthy and same adult. If need be, find a trusted family member or friend to vent to about how it stings and hurts. Or better yet, open a new page in your journal and let 'er rip. Write down everything you hate or can't stand about what's happened, and LEAVE it all on that page. If it's in there, and not bouncing around your cerebral cortex, you've advanced yourself many levels and gotten your "groove" back. Then get to work on the chink in your armor that allowed a sling or arrow to penetrate, and seal it back the heck up. Don't leave that area unguarded again if you can help it.
As I've previously posted, anger is only useful from a position of strength. Unfortunately, many of us will still feel angry when we are not in a position of strength, and can't do anything about it. The feelings will happen regardless, but we are the only ones who can keep them under control. Let's not lose the one power we have in that situation.
Yeah, now I'm back up to date -- feel free to comment!
No matter what we do, there is always a chance that someone, or something, will get under our skin. Get our goat, grind our gears, boil our blood . . . or just plain p--- us off!
(sorry all, this is a family blog)
We're only human, so unless we're campaigning for sainthood, we're at least going to feel this reaction emotionally, even if we don't actually express it. So what's to be done about it, without exposing ourselves to homicide charges?
(A) NEVER let your anger effect your judgment. Expressing why you're getting ticked, even a little bit forcefully, is OK, but DON'T let that expression include (1) any kind of cursing; (2) name-calling or slams against the other person (especially not anything that could cost you your reputation); or (3) any sort of threats. If you must call someone on their BS, call them out only on the specific issues, and don't hit "below the belt." Chances are, these people are trying to goad you into all of the above, and they're experts in using them against you.
(B) FIND the breach in your "skin," patch it back up, and heal it. We've all got weak spots, but you don't let them stay weak and vulnerable if you expect to function like a healthy and same adult. If need be, find a trusted family member or friend to vent to about how it stings and hurts. Or better yet, open a new page in your journal and let 'er rip. Write down everything you hate or can't stand about what's happened, and LEAVE it all on that page. If it's in there, and not bouncing around your cerebral cortex, you've advanced yourself many levels and gotten your "groove" back. Then get to work on the chink in your armor that allowed a sling or arrow to penetrate, and seal it back the heck up. Don't leave that area unguarded again if you can help it.
As I've previously posted, anger is only useful from a position of strength. Unfortunately, many of us will still feel angry when we are not in a position of strength, and can't do anything about it. The feelings will happen regardless, but we are the only ones who can keep them under control. Let's not lose the one power we have in that situation.
Yeah, now I'm back up to date -- feel free to comment!
A Good Cause
Hey All -- I know, I know, I've been missing a little bit, but not to worry, The Man Has Returned! :)
The proliferation of the color pink has become an annual event we expect every October. And this has nothing to do with a certain relative's favorite color, but everything to do with a worthy cause.
October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. An especially dangerous cancer, this natural parasite can spread to the bones, causing fractures and spinal cord compression. It causes the deaths of tens of thousands of women each year, and hundreds of thousands of new cases are diagnosed each year.
This morning, at Jones Beach on Long Island, a 5-mile walk was held to raise continuing awareness, and research funds, to battle and hopefully eradicate this deadly disease. I was honored to be among everyone else there, and to support research to treat and combat this scourge.
The central purpose of this blog is self-fulfillment and self-acceptance. However, sometimes it takes extra pride and self-respect to contribute your time or money to a cause that helps others, and may save lives. Without taking away all that is needed to continue and improve our self-confidence, you'll find an extra boost in pride that can only come from giving to something a little bit bigger than you and me.
If any you have not already done so, I encourage you to donate to the American Cancer Society, or any other organization committed to battling this disease. And diary this occasion next year to make it an annual event. Chances are, you may be saving the life of someone close and dear to you, or maybe a friend or relative of someone close and dear to you.
You'll be glad you did. Trust me.
The proliferation of the color pink has become an annual event we expect every October. And this has nothing to do with a certain relative's favorite color, but everything to do with a worthy cause.
October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. An especially dangerous cancer, this natural parasite can spread to the bones, causing fractures and spinal cord compression. It causes the deaths of tens of thousands of women each year, and hundreds of thousands of new cases are diagnosed each year.
This morning, at Jones Beach on Long Island, a 5-mile walk was held to raise continuing awareness, and research funds, to battle and hopefully eradicate this deadly disease. I was honored to be among everyone else there, and to support research to treat and combat this scourge.
The central purpose of this blog is self-fulfillment and self-acceptance. However, sometimes it takes extra pride and self-respect to contribute your time or money to a cause that helps others, and may save lives. Without taking away all that is needed to continue and improve our self-confidence, you'll find an extra boost in pride that can only come from giving to something a little bit bigger than you and me.
If any you have not already done so, I encourage you to donate to the American Cancer Society, or any other organization committed to battling this disease. And diary this occasion next year to make it an annual event. Chances are, you may be saving the life of someone close and dear to you, or maybe a friend or relative of someone close and dear to you.
You'll be glad you did. Trust me.
Wednesday, October 10, 2012
A Worthy Cause!
Please donate to my friend's Breast Cancer Awareness event!
Kellene Fisher http://main.acsevents.org/site/TR?fr_id=47327&pg=team&team_id=1277249-Link
to my Breast Cancer Walk for a cure team ;>
Kellene Fisher http://main.acsevents.org/site/TR?fr_id=47327&pg=team&team_id=1277249-Link
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