When I first coined the term "alphole," people turned their offense-o-meters way up and let your buddy David hear it loud and clear. How I dare I use such a term? How dare I "generalize," even if these people are real? How dare I say the emperor is wearing no clothes when it's not "cool" to say it?
I'm ashamed to admit I haven't been posting consistently this summer, but I can assure you I wasn't caving in or kowtowing to such groupthink. We Bold Betas are destined to face alpholes no matter what we do, and we must be prepared to protect ourselves against their misdeeds, provided we do not stoop to their level and follow the alphaganda.
But I'd like to speak about another type of person we might come across - and this person is the absolute 180-degree opposite of an alphole.
Many of you reading this might not have someone in your life who fits this description. There are ways to find them, and this may require you to be somewhat selective. It means you have to set certain criteria as to who you invite into your life, and you have to reject those who don't meet them for the sake of self-preservation. That way, it's impossible to be anyone else's follower or lackey.
Take away all those who don't make the cut, and who do you have? People who get you. People who understand you. People who accept you as you are. People who genuinely like you and care about you. And more importantly, you'll feel exactly the same way about them.
And once you make that connection, you'll want to make them just as happy as they've made you. This will feel effortless. This will feel right. And this will make you feel even more Bold and Bulletproof than you already feel, because you'll be sharing your strength with another. Not sacrificing your own self worth to someone else, and not commandeering someone who's nobody on their own. No, you're making each other better.
So what's the opposite of an alphole? An S.Y.L. Someone You Love.
Ain't that a pip. I guess this blog isn't always about disparaging those who make our lives difficult and unpleasant. Make no mistake, the alpholes still don't get away with it. But one good way to stay Bold and Bulletproof is to replace the alpholes in our lives with as many SYL's as we can find.
There's no limit to the places you'll go with them!