Hey All, it's about that time.
This weekend, I advanced my technology just a bit. Well, more like I renewed a part of my technology that I hadn't discussed in a while.
Part of being emotionally mature means finding a way to deal with any and all negative thoughts. Can we experience fear, pain, anxiety, anger, frustration, etc.? Absolutely. But we need to experience them without being ruled by them.
Years ago, I talked about a Heart of Armor. That means there is a part of your mind/heart/soul that is completely, protected, insulated, and secure from the above negative emotions. That means you don't think about that project at work when you're at the beach. That also means you don't start immediately showing a mental rerun of bad stuff that happened just because you see or hear something that reminds you of it (that crap might work on Family Guy, but it doesn't work in your mind).
You might be aware of troubles and challenges - you kinda need to be - but there is a protected part of you that you never, ever, let those troubles and challenges affect. If it's not in front of you that minute, you keep any thought of it in check. If it is in front of you that minute, then handle it. Regardless, you must keep those stress-causing, agita-inducing thoughts way out of your zone.
This way, you don't personalize or internalize the problems. You don't make it all about you when it isn't. And when it is all about you, you still don't let it immobilize, paralyze, or hurt you.
There is a difference between accepting responsibility for something, when you must, and hurting yourself. When people know your weaknesses, they will try to make you feel like hurting yourself with no remorse and no regret. It is our job, and only our job, to prevent this from happening at all costs. Not just to protect us from them. But also from ourselves.
When we can be aware of what is around us, good or bad, without being distracted or emotionally triggered by it, half the battle is won. Our tormentors will realize that they're not getting the out-of-control reaction they wanted. Our supporters will respect us more than otherwise.
"But I'm so passionate!" "But I'm so outgoing!" "But I'm just so badass I can't be contained!"
You may or may not be reading the wrong blog, friend. Or more likely, you can use that passion with discipline and control. That way you bring about positive results, and not just more and more debates and arguments.
More importantly, that way you don't get your buttons pushed. You control your emotions, they don't control you.
I EXIST. I MATTER. I BELONG. I DESERVE.
I AM BOLD. I AM BULLETPROOF.
I AM EMOTIONALLY MATURE.