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Sunday, December 21, 2014

A Turn For The Worst

Hello All!  Watching my Jets lose to the Patriots, no shock there.

Yesterday, two NYPD police officers were murdered, no, assassinated.  Someone truly evil thought that he could earn payback for the decisions of grand juries in St. Louis County, Missouri, and Richmond County, New York, to not indict officers with homicide charges by somehow taking justice into his own hands. 

A few days before that, a major motion picture studio cancels the release of a simple-minded bro-comedy because the government of another country employed hackers to wreak havoc on its computer network.

Where have we gone wrong?!!?!?!?

Who says that the way to correct society's wrongs are to swing the pendulum the other way as hard as possible?  Exactly what problems did that approach ever solve?!?!?

And what makes us think that just giving in to someone who tries to bully us, because they "can kick our ass," is the right thing to do?

(1) CONCEDING, ABDICATING, AND APPEASING SOMEONE WITH NO AUTHORITY OVER YOU WHATSOEVER IS A HUGE MISTAKE.  It gives them carte blanche to do it over and over again, because they've been shown that no consequences will result.  This can, of course, be corrected later, but that first instance of doing so is very costly.  They have no say in what a studio in our country can or cannot produce.

(2) RESORTING TO BRUTE FORCE, OTHER THAN IN SELF-DEFENSE, IS NEVER AN ANSWER TO SOCIETY'S ILLS.  We do not live in a comic book, and we are not governed by mob rule.  Reform police procedure if you must, enact new laws and repeal old ones if you're so inclined.  NONE OF THIS "OCCUPY," NEO-HIPPIE, PSEUDO-COUNTERCULTURE, ISIS-LOVING, ANARCHIST WAY OF THINKING WILL SOLVE ANYTHING.

As beta males, we encounter very similar choices in our quest for self-fulfillment.  Do we just do as we're told, or do we make a difference?  Do we think about realistic solutions for problems that plague us, or do we turn into animals?

It doesn't take an expert to see the right decision.  It shouldn't anyway.



Sunday, December 14, 2014

Clean it Up!

Morning, all!  Little chilly now, in the winter of our discontent!  

I've never loved housework, or any type of cleaning or organizing.  But if I don't do it, or hire someone to do it for me, my home will stay a mess.  It's the same way with our minds.

Sometimes we have too much clutter on the brain.  We may have friends who can say that they're "over it," and that nothing bothers them, but sometimes it does still bother us.  There may be completely valid reasons why it's still there, but if it's getting in the way of the here and now, you have to get rid of it.

(1).  The indirect approach.  Do what my relatives do whenever they're losing an argument with me - change the subject!  Whenever your thoughts start focusing on the garbage you don't need, IMMEDIATELY start thinking about something more pleasant, more familiar, and more comforting.  With enough practice, all of that will disappear.

(2).  The direct approach.  Confront whatever or whoever is giving you agita and clear the air.  It doesn't have to be an argument or a fight.  All you have to do is calmly or plainly state what's bothering you and why you don't want to tolerate any longer.

Either option you choose is fine with me. What's NOT fine is doing absolutely nothing about it.  This is what keeps you stuck, and it sends a signal to every alphole near you to go on a feeding frenzy.  Stop letting it happen.

Be good, all!

Saturday, December 6, 2014


Hey all, about that time!

And while we're on the subject, ever wonder where it goes?  And why it gets that much faster the older we get?

And how does everything we want to do get postponed indefinitely because of all the mundane crap that gets in the way?

Trust me, I'm no stranger to that mess.  And once I made the costly error of admitting my lack of time to a critic, I had to listen to him lecturing me about it for an hour, no joke.  Yeahhhh, your friend was not happy about that one, but that's another story.

How do deal?

(1).  Perform An Audit.
No appointment needed for this one.  Just map out the following:
  (A). What MUST be done RIGHT NOW.
  (B).  What MUST be done before you go to sleep tonight.
  (C).  What CAN be done today, but can wait.
  (D).  What CANNOT be done today.  This means a physical impossibility, and not an unwillingness to deal with a pain in the ass.
(2).  Perform an Upgrade.
    As soon as you finish everything in Categories A and B, transfer everything in Category C into those categories.

The key is remaining pro-active, because when our to-do list is empty, we get lazy and indolent.  As beta males, this is our Achilles' heel.  If we are too passive, laid back, and disengaged, we abdicate our power to control our own lives.  We become tools and punching bags.  We become slaves to duty, never able to crawl out from under a mountain of procrastination.  We become crushed by stress and worry, never able to relax and enjoy life.

I don't know about you, but that feels like the opposite of advancement to me.  That feels like inviting the alpholes to have their way with you, because you're stuck and they're not.

Don't abdicate control.  Stay on top of it, whatever it is!  Make your own schedule, blaze your own trail, and NEVER let them trap you into being "too busy!"